Emmotional Spending - A.K.A Retail Therapy

How often have you succumbed to this? What the hell is retail therapy? I feel that it is just another term coined by marketers and advertisers to make us feel as if we can reduce stress and be happier just by spending more money.

I know that most of us work 8 to 10 hours a day, 5 to 6 days a week and all the workload can cause a lot of stress and unhappy feelings. After a hard week at work, we all feel as if we need to reward ourselves. And what better way to do that than to spend, spend and spend. But hold on. Is that you thinking or is that what advertisers and marketers want you to think? We get fed with a whole lot of garbage advertising day in day out. They know best how to lure you in. Words such as pamper yourself, you deserve this, only the best for you etc etc...

Even the best of us are guilty of having done this at least once in their lives. I'm not saying that this is necessarily bad, but please don't overkill and go on a therapy rampage. All you will get is buyers remorse after. It's the guilt after the shopping blood lust wears off. So why substitute one bad feeling for another?

How does your emotions affect the way you spend? Do you spend more or less when you experience certain emotions? Everyone has a different emotional spending habit. As for myself, it goes something like this:

• Sad - Don't Feel like spending a single cent, I kinda retreat into myself and stone.
• Happy - Feel like spending on something nice for someone to let them share my happiness.
• Stressed - Spend on drinks and food.

Before you ask, no, I do not only have those 3 emotions or feelings but those are the most general ones. Once again, don't let your emotions take a toll on your budgeting. Counter this by setting up a bad mood fund - Read more about it here. It is basically a fund set up in a separate saving account to spend without guilt when you are in a mood. The emotion attached is called bad because I assume that most people spend more when they are in a bad mood, hence the need of "therapy".

So, how does your spending habits change in light of different moods and situation? Please share so we can give and receive advice on how to better manage excessive spending. We are all here to help each other out.

As always, save more, spend less and invest wisely.
P.

Difficult to Retire Early in Singapore - If you are A dude.

During the week, I happened upon a forum post on an Early Retirement Extreme site. The topic starter was a Singaporean man who is searching for ways to achieve early retirement in Singapore but has yet to do so. What caught my attention was a reply from someone is Australia who has stayed in Singapore for a period of time.

He said some things which caused me to ponder upon some of my decisions, although i will try not to be wavered in my decision - My life my rules..cant rem which advert was that from. Anyway, he said that its difficult for the male gender to retire EXTREMELY early in Singapore due to several reason. Here they are(taken directly from forum):

• Patriarchal society. If you are a man - not working is just not the done thing.
• Very consumer driven. Singapore is wealthy and people live well, dress well and drive nice cars. There is also a distinct lake of 'Bohemia' and weirdness which makes being different frowned upon. This is a country that has laws for everything. You cannot chew gum and if you do not flush the toilet in a public place and caught you are fined.
• The other issue is this idea / cultural thing that one must look after the sons parents in old age. Lots of pressure on the sons to keep working and prosper.

 How do you feel about the points that he has brought up? I feel that they are extremely valid. I do not really care much about the first and second point as I do not really care what outsiders judge me and I do not really covet what other people have. However, I realized that I have neglected to account for point 3. I have accounted for monthly allowance for when they stop working but have not done so for the later stages of their lives. Costs such as their hospitalization, their insurance or even their holidays.

So far, My plans only include my immediate family consisting of me, my wife and my future children. This once proves that plans are ever changing and we as humans must adapt. I know have to re-strategize to include all these costs which I have missed out. We learn everyday do we not?

Is there anything you have missed out on?

As always, save more, spend less and invest wisely.
P.

Just.One.More.Dollar

Dear readers, somewhere along the way, roughly in the past 2 years, I have come to realize something. Sometimes, the extra dollar saved is not worth the sacrifice you have to make. Yes, I know that every dollar counts but there must also be a limit to how much we can compromise our lifestyle and the lifestyle of those around you.

After achieving your set target for the month, saving those extra dollars will not bring forward the earlier retirement date by much. I would say at most a year or two.  Now let me ask you this, would it be worth it to sacrifice for the next 20 years or so just so that you can retire that one or two years earlier? I say no. I do not want to compromise my current lifestyle too much for that. You must know when enough is enough.

What I think we should do is to create a smooth path, one that we enjoy all the way till the end. In moderation of course, and not one where we have to suffer first and enjoy later. In everything we do, we have to think about the people around us, our spouse, our children or our parents. It does not mean that if you do not mind the suffering, they won't mind it as well. They might be appearing to do so just because they do not wish to let you feel disappointed. Spare a thought for them, and if you can afford it, spend those extra dollars to make their day brighter and happier.

I guess this will be a short post. Got so many things to do, so little time.

Anyway, I hope we will not be so overly obsessed with savings that we forget the reason to which we are saving or neglect our loved ones.

As always, save more, spend less and invest wisely.
P.

Set Mini Crossover Points to Spur you towards the Ultimate Crossover Point

The ultimate crossover point is when your passive incomes are finally more than your total expenses. This is when you know you have reach financial freedom. At this point, you will no longer be bound by the need to have a job. You will have this very special reward called choice. Choice to work or just to stay at home the entire day. Choice to travel for an entire year and choice to never work again.

The only problem is that the journey to this crossover point is long and tedious. Different people set different points as spending and saving needs and powers are different. For example, if you spend very little and save a lot, you will reach your crossover point very quickly. And if you spend a lot and save very little, you will reach your crossover point very late in life or never at all. No pain no gain.

However, for the average folks like me who save a decent amount and are not mad spenders, the journey would still be quite a long and arduous one. To keep ourselves motivated and to prevent the thought of giving up, we should set mini crossover points. These are like mini goals to reach, one step at a time.

Here are some mini crossover points to help you generate more ideas.

1. Positive Net Worth - In Singapore, I assume that when we get a house, we will fall into negative net worth. Getting back to positive net worth will require work  but will definitely be a welcomed crossover point.
2. No Debts - Another point to cross would be to have no debts. Student debts, credit card debts or renovation loans.
3. Passive Income to cover certain Expenses - Break your expenses up into different categories. For example, telephone bills, water bills, electricity bills or groceries and such. Every time your passive income cover one of the expenses totally, you have reach a mini cross over point. It feels good to know that at that point, you will never need to worry about paying for that expense again.

Now that you have gotten an idea of mini crossovers, you can come up with a list of your own. I hope this helps motivate and spur you on.

As always, save more, spend less and invest wisely.
P.

The Rat Traps to Savings

Dear readers, to save money is one of the most important, if not the most important step to financial independence and retirement.Without this step, nothing will be achieved. No emergency funds, no investments, no safety net. So why is it that so many out there who are able to save still not saving or saving way too little?
I guess the main reason is that they have hit one of the several Rat Traps. Rat Traps are traps that stop you from getting out of the Rat Race. It traps you and keeps you there until you die. Sad but true.

For today's post, I'm going to talk more about the Rat Traps that keep you from saving money. I hope that you are not currently caught in them and if you are, I sincerely hope that you will realize it after reading this post and get out of it and eventually the never ending Rat Race.

So without further ado, here they are.

1. Ready, get set.....NOTHING 
• The hardest part to doing anything new is to get started. There are so many thoughts running through our heads that keep us from taking that first step forward. The 2 largest killing factors are fear and procrastination. For savings, it's mainly procrastination. We always have something we need the money for first, so wait. Too lazy to open a savings account, so wait. Remember, every single day you procrastinate will delay your target date of retirement. Push yourself out of your comfort zone, tell someone or everyone that you are going to start a savings plan and do it. This will push you to not procrastinate and friends and family will from time to time ask you how your plans are going, thus reminding you to keep on doing it.
2. Inconsistent Savings.
• If you are not saving on a regular basis, you will not be able to form the habit of saving. Your conviction to save will be too rubbery. You might fall into the trap of eventually telling yourself, why save and stop saving altogether. Combat this trap by setting up an automated savings account. Most banks have these and the best part is that you wont even have to think about it.
3. Eenie meenie minee mo!
• This trap is, to me, the deadliest of all traps. Conflicting goals. It makes you weigh and choose which situation is the more important one. Conflicting goals are when  you have to choose between saving for that period, or using it to go for that year end holiday you and your family have been talking about all year. If you save, you will be on target to retirement. If you spend on the holiday, your family would be happy. So hard to decide...Set your priorities right, and sometimes, its okay to compromise. The best thing you can do here is to, if you know that you are going to spend on a year end holiday, start setting money aside throughout the year for it. This way, you will not eat into your retirement portions of your savings and your family will be able to have a nice holiday.
4. I'm going nowhere..forget it.
• This is where most people get caught, they have taken the 1st step, and the 2nd and maybe even reached the 10th step. But at a certain point, you will definitely start to doubt and wonder whether all of this is worth the effort at all. Your savings and investments seem to be going nowhere. The balance doesn't even look like its moving. But please, you have pulled yourself this far. Nothing good is ever free or easy. There is a saying that the 1st $100,000 or the 1st $1,000,000 is the hardest and as you go on, it gets easier and easier. Just put one foot in front of the other and keep on going. Set mini goals in between this large goal to keep yourself motivated. Set yearly or monthly goals to save a certain amount, invest a certain amount or pay of a certain amount of debt. This helps, trust me.

Having read about the traps, can you relate to any of them? Are you currently in one? Or did you manage to get out of all these traps? I sincerely hope that we will all escape these traps as soon as possible and get on with out journey towards an early retirement. To those that are still there, don't give up. Try again and never be afraid to ask for help. We come and go from this world alone, but for the span of time that we are in it, we are not.

As always, save more, spend less and invest wisely.
P.

The Savings Gene

These few days, I have been wondering to myself as to whether the habit of savings is something we train to do or is it something deeper. I guess your personal habits of savings can be partially shaped by your family background and upbringing. I stated partially because no matter whether your family is rich or poor, whether your parents are spenders or savers, there are always rebels in the family. ( Are you getting what I'm saying? I think the caffeine from my morning coffee is affecting my thought process..getting the buzz from the overly strong coffee...maybe I should cut down.)

Anyway, what I personally think is that the habit or need to save is ingrained in our genes, in our DNA. There are those that will never save no matter how deeply in debt they are, and there are those who will still save a high percentage of their income even if they are mega rich. I used to tell my friends who lived paychecks to paychecks to try to save a little, only to be dissed off and told that they know what they are doing...I have since tried subtler ways - See this post You can use some of the methods stated there if you have friends like that and want to help them save at least something.

How much are you saving every month? I did a calculation on my monthly accounts and was pretty shocked that my wife and I are saving 48.5746% of our take home income. ( Decimal points to add extra effect.....also something to confess.. as a spreadsheet junkie, I did not have to look or calculate to know..i look at it everyday..a habit I want to change..to something like once in 2 days...ok ok... once a month. I'm serious. Maybe we should have something like AA meetings. "Hi, my name is P and I'm a spreadsheedoholic")

Sorry about the ranting, anyway, everyone has different lifestyle and beliefs, but we must all try to save, no matter how much or little..better lean more towards the much. Try increasing your percentage of savings whenever you are able to. You can do this either by cutting your expenses or increasing your income. Always remember that what you can save = your income - your expense.

I hope that you uncover your "powers" of savings which is embedded in your DNA soon. It's never too late until its too late..( Don't Judge). What should a healthy percentage of savings? Like everything else in life, too much or too little of anything can be unhealthy...percentage of savings included.

As always save more, spend less and invest wisely.
P.

The Spine of Early Retirement

I'm sure that most of you are familiar with some of the steps you have to take to reach early retirement, but bear with me as I repeat them once again for the benefit those who do not. These steps are not concrete and you can choose to take them or not to attain your early retirement but I believe that paths are similar to these. Only difference being your personal tweaks, luck and mistakes.

Without further ado, here they are:

• Start as Early as Possible - This applies not only to those seeking early retirement or financial freedom but to everyone. The earlier you start, the more time you have to allow the magic of compound interest to work. What's more, having more time allows for more margin of error. No one is perfect therefore we should always make allowance for mistakes.

• Manage your Consumption - One of the main reasons why most people are not able to save enough for an early retirement is because they spend to much. We are all wired to consume and many of us can't help it but conform. However, there is this rebel within us that does not want to conform, we want to break free from the norm - these are the people that are able to achieve extremely early retirement. Reduce spending now, stop spending money on too much wants, stick with the needs. You do not need that new hand phone just because it has a battery life of 1/2 an hour more than yours or a screen 1/2 an inch bigger than yours. Remember, you choose your enough, not your neighbor.

• .Cut down on Excess Spending -  I know it's often hard to form new good habits, but trust me, this will benefit you. For just 1 or 2 months, track every dollar you spend and at the end of the month, you will be able to see where you have been spending unnecessarily. These are the parts of your spending tree that you must prune away. If you feel comfortable keeping track of your expenses by then, you can continue doing so. If not, try to stick to your current monthly expenses less those unnecessary expenses and do a follow up 6 months later to find out your monthly expense status.

•  Be Frugal - This step is an acquired taste, once you get it, it becomes something you actually enjoy doing. However i urge you to do this is moderation if you are not alone in your journey. Your significant other might not share the same joys as you in being frugal. You have to take baby steps to let them see the benefits of being frugal. What you must do to be frugal is to view money as an extremely precious resource not be to exchanged for something of lesser value. For me, i feel that lesser value means items that bring no benefit or new experiences to your life. Most of the time, these items just bring you momentary satisfaction that last for a month at most. Not worth it.

• Never Trade Early Retirement for Happiness and Family - This is the last and most important key. You should never trade anything in this world for happiness and your family. What is the point of forsaking your happiness and family to gain early retirement? The point of early retirement is to be able to have time for both. Don't be over obsessed with retiring early that you forgo your current happiness or spend so much time tweaking your spreadsheet or monitoring your portfolio that you neglect your family. You have to set your priorities right.. what is most important in your life. For me, its family, for without them life would be quite meaningless even if u have all the riches in the world.

 I know that everyone will make mistakes as to err is to be human or was it to err is human... Anyway, i hope that on your journey to financial freedom or early retirement, you will make more right choices than mistakes. Ponder upon what is most important in your life, keep it close and never ever trade it for anything this world has to offer.

As always, save more, spend less and invest wisely.
P.

Thou Shall Not Covet

" Look at your own life to see what is enough, don't look at your neighbors to compare. " Saw this quote or something similar at a blog  i once read. My memory seems to be failing me. Can't decide whether it's due to me getting on in age or just too many things flying around in my mind.

The quote is so true. Since young, we have been 'trained' to always do better than others. Get better results than others, run faster than other, earn more than other or get a better car than others. We often look to our neighbors to compare but is one-upping our neighbor going to improve our lives significantly? There will always be someone else to compare with and in the end, it will form a never ending cycle.

Ask yourselves this, do you really need that extra million to retire? Do you really need that new phone? Do you really need a new car? Sure, these things are definitely nice to have, but do you need them? After earning that extra million, will you stop or will you want to earn another.. and another .. and another.

The important thing is to figure out what you deem is sufficient and work towards attaining that. If you want to get from point A to point B, especially in Singapore, a Honda Civic would do as well as a Porsche. Why get it just so you can feel 'better' than someone?

At the end of the day, what stays with you are memories of the experiences you went through and not the material things that you have accumulated. Don't get on the never ending roller coaster ride of endless consumption. Know what is enough and spend the rest of your energy enjoying the rest of your life.

P.

Dealing with Early Retirement Obsession

There will come a point, no doubt, in every early retirement preppers journey where he/she will become extremely obsessed. (At least i hope that its not just me.)

You will start counting every day and dollar you have to retirement. You will search for every book and blog for every single detail which increases your chance of early retirement. And if you are like me, you will tweak and tweak your early retirement spreadsheet several times a day before you feel at ease. Don't judge me, you will get to this point if you want early retirement bad enough.

The key point is to realize that this is merely a stage that you have to go through and that these are just the means and not the ends of your goal. I have to admit that i am still at this stage, although i feel that I'm exiting it for the next soon.

For those of you who are beginning this stage or are stuck chest deep in this obsession, here are a few pointers to hopefully help you out.

ps if you say you are not obsessed and immediately have to check your spreadsheet or  think of new methods straight after you read my blog...sorry bro.. you are.

To the therapy room ~

• First of all, like all problems like alcohol or gambling addiction, the most important step is to realize and admit that you are obsessed with early retirement. Only then can you see the full picture. Having this obsession for a short while is okay as it drives you to save more in the early stage. Dragging it out for too long is where this obsession gets unhealthy, not unlike any other obsession.

• Next, you will have to realize that after the initial stage of planning and savings, the small little obsessive tweaks here and there will at most shave a few days off your retirement. The time spent will not be worth it. You should instead be spending your time with your family. All you have to do is stick to your decided path and only tweak or tinker when you hit a major milestone or feel that your are drifting off your path.

•  Lastly, pick up as many new skills and hobbies as you can - inexpensive ones of course. There are 2 reasons for this pointer. The first would be that it takes your mind off constantly obsessing about early retirement. The second would be that these skills and hobbies are the things that will keep you occupied and your mind alert when you are finally into retirement.

There it is, my humble advice to you. I really hope it helps, however much or little.

My last parting advice would be to always share your plans, your feelings and even your obsessions with your family or spouse. I know its hard...as a guy to share his feelings..(Gals have no issue in this department..at least my wife doesn't - sometimes i think i should invent pills for verbal diarrhea).

Anyway, sharing will really bond you and take some burden off your shoulders. Remember that you are never truly alone. Family is forever.

As always, save more, spend less and invest wisely.
P.

Are you saving enough?

As per the title, do you think that you are stashing away enough money? Are you saving 30%, 20% or nothing at all? Well, it's never too late to start but be warned that the later you start, the longer you have to work and the later you retire.

The amount of your salary that you save per month is directly co related to when you can retire. Let's say you save 25% of your income per month for a year. That would mean that you have a year or retirement saved up ready to be invested after every 4 years.(Presuming you have the same level of expenses after retirement) And if you save 50% of your income, you would have a years worth after 2 years.

An example would better illustrate this. Here are 2 friends, Jon and Mike, both 25 and are commanding the same income of $5000. Jon saves 25% and Mike saves 50%. They both invest their money at a rate of 8% and require $3,500 a month to cover their expenses when they retire.( Higher expenses due to dream of traveling and fulfilling other things they always wanted but did not have time to do)

With the power of higher percentage of savings and the magic of compounding, Mike would achieve retirement at the very young age of 35. Jon on the other hand would have to slog for another 6 years of this life to reach the same level as Mike and retire at the age of 41.

Are you ready to save more now to attain an earlier retirement? Or will you rather enjoy that little bit more now and have to retire later. I choose to save more now and retire earlier. For those with partners who differ in your views of saving versus spending, you can always apply the bad mood fund and adjust slowly to an amount you are both comfortable with. I mean, there is no point in starting your journey with an argument or fight with your special someone when one of the key reasons for early retirement would be to get to spend more time with them.

With this, I leave you to ponder your priorities as you yourself know which path to take best. I wish you wealth and happiness in whichever path you choose.

As always, save more, spend less and invest wisely.
P.